Body shamed.

To the lady who just called me “scarily skinny” and told her daughter I “need to eat a cheeseburger”:
EFF YOU. 
If you think I am not aware I am sick, I am. I may not be able to see what I really look like in the mirror but I am trying.

If you think I should just “eat a cheeseburger” as you put it, I wish I could but I cry sometimes just being in the parking lot of the grocery store.

If you think your comment was funny or “constructive criticism”, it wasn’t. In fact it just made my eating disorder thoughts stronger by pointing out that people do judge others based on appearance and reinforcing my Eating Disorder’s belief that I need to be skinnier.

If you think you can use the excuse “I didn’t know you had an eating disorder” to pardon your behavior, you can’t. It doesn’t matter if you knew or didn’t it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. If you were truly worried about me you could’ve more discreetly and kindly “crossed the line” to express that. 

If you think your mental satisfaction was worth more than my mental health by commenting on my body, I sure hope it was because I have been crying since. 

If you think you didn’t do anything wrong or haven’t even considered what your little comment may have felt like on the receiving end, I hope you read this and stop yourself next time because regardless of if someone is “scary skinny”, “normal”, or “morbidly obese” it is still NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS and you never know what that person may be battling.

6 thoughts on “Body shamed.

  1. So well said! Everyone is different and has their own struggles and to make stupid uninformed snide comments such as that one says a hell of a lot more about the commenter than the person it was directed at. Stay strong ☺

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  2. I’m so sorry that she was such an asshole. That’s completely unacceptable and no one has a right to judge anyone else by their appearances. She was ignorant and cruel. You are beautiful. Sending many gentle hugs, if okay.

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  3. Reblogged this on The Sound of Ed's Voice and commented:
    Again… What is wrong with people?! Why do they feel this need to say these things?? What does it matter what other people look like?? No seriously… Enlighten me! Someone. Because I don’t understand why people feel it necessary to comment on mine or anyone else’s body size shape or weight.

    Rude.

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  4. What. The. Eff?!?! WHAT THE EFF!! This makes me SO MAD!! What is wrong with people?!?? This is one of my biggest fears because I got it a lot when I was visually anorexic and even when I have gained back weight I STILL get it! Why does it matter?! I fear judgment and all and it is because of people’s comments like that!! I have people ask me if I was pregnant so I’d lie and say yes! When I was visually thin, and people made those derogatory remarks, you know what I used to say? “Ya cancer is a bitch, chemo gets me every time.”

    I am a bitch and I throw back at people the one thing they are afraid of and will feel guilty about: the cancer card. It’s wrong that they feel horrid about cancer but not eating disorders. BS. Because our struggles aren’t real?

    Sometimes I wish it were cancer. At least there they have an actual track able demon.

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